Denašel

denašel, literally: to run away, to escape.

Verbal constructions of the type denašťam/denašte, etc. (we ran away,/they ran away, etc.) denote the entering into a union with the beloved (piraňi) of one's own choice – against the parents' will.

In the traditional Roma community, it was basically the parents who chose the life partners for their children. The oldest brother ( Baro phral – literally: "big brother") gave his advice. In most cases, younger brothers did not dare to disobey. If, however, their love for someone of their own choice was so strong that they could not accept the choice of their parents, they ran away (denašte). They hid in the home of distant relatives who lived in another locality. These relatives usually provided them with sanctuary and occasionally negotiated peace with the family. Some parents took the young pair back after a few weeks or months, some only when the young people returned remorsefully with their offspring.

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